But she congratulated me as though I achieved a goal. I quickly made sure to express that if I have any goals its to create a close loving fulfilling relationship and i’d like to think of an orgasm as an expression of love that happens naturally when your relationship is based on love.

Regarding the course just how you point out each situation is different and unique. There is no step by step process to fix or repair your wife or relationship. You point out how you provide the house not the design. You give men the framework of knowledge, when they apply it and become more attentive men who act out of love and compassion vs. thinking of how to manipulate someone to get what they want, then they end up being fulfilled in return.

It’s amazing how many relationship issues are because men are blindly selfish. I’m sure women can be to, but men need to lead both out of the dark and into the light.

I have a long way to go but enjoy your emails and program so far. I’ve read the 4 PDF’s and listened to one audio on the 4 areas of focus. Thanks! — John

I just put up a new forum post as a reply to my plea for help a couple of weeks back. You both took precious time out to help me out and I remain utterly grateful for what you offered. How can I say enough thanks?

OK, it is still early days – but you have a Revive Her Drive success story unfolding here in the UK!

My wife, whom I dearly love, has struggled with a phobia for 29 years. You might recall we are in therapy. Well OK, the therapy probably did some of the trick but I have absolutely no doubt the things I learnt from you and your colleagues helped us build a safe space for her to challenge herself and throw out some of her problems! I’ve seen warm, positive changes happen in her since I took up the course, but the awesome change she made stole my breath right away! The details are in the forum post.

These changes would not have happened if I had continued in my ‘old’ frame of mind. I now know I was focusing on all the wrong things.

We men HAVE to change, and learn how to respect, love, cherish, and support our ladies. You showed me that! It is not me that is reaping the benefit – it is my wife. And she deserves every bit of it! And because she is healing we both benefit and I am finding we awake to a new experience!

So, OK, I can’t hug you but the thought is there!!! 😀

I’ll keep you posted.

And feel free to use what I posted on the forum, and what it in this e-mail, for your RHD publicity. I’ll happily stand by what I say.

With greatest of gratitude, Clive UK

I must be honest with you and confess it now! I am coming clean with you! Your recent picture of you and your beloved was giant great! You are a wonderful inspiration! And you both look great!

I just read your “man” stiff-it-up articles in your series, you know the ones—by Xuma and Hudson.

This is good stuff, not just for marriage but in working with others everywhere.

For example, I got a hair cut the other day. The lady working on my hair was “fat!” Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects, I looked for the good in her. Then I expressed what I found. Results? She gave me a glorious hair cut — and by the time I was ready to leave, she fairly was coming on to me! Attention and appreciation are so powerful.

Giving a person a “frame” in Dr. Patti Taylor’s mode is just as excellent. Just telling someone the moment of wonder about them is so marvelous.

I know the last time I emailed you, I was depressed beyond comprehension. You put it to me honest and straight. That was helpful.

I discovered that a person’s difficulty is actually an empowering moment. They are intended to help you learn the skills to lift you to a higher level.

As you know, I am a preacher so I have to give you my little sermon for today. Calle Zorro of TheMarriageYouWant mentioned it. He suggested that you get from others what you expect to get. Since we make judgments about people and since we are certain we are right in our judgment, (to put it in Calle’s words, “If I mostly always get to be right, then it is in my best interest to see and expect the best in others.” That is what helped me from you. It is simply, “A man must genuinely believe in his wife’s greatness more than she believes in it herself,” as Zorro puts it.

Having a grand day. And because I know you, I know you will. That is just who you are! — Kenneth

You have totally under promised and over-delivered on your interview series “Revive Her Drive”.

I am deeply touched by what you have done, the way you have done it and the spirit underlying your work.

The depth of the interviews is such that I’ve begun giving them repeated listenings.

My wife doesn’t know what’s changed but I can tell you that I’m loving the way she is changing and responding. I fallen in love with her all over again.

Sheri Winston’s Module and book are fabulous. It was great to be reminded of TOUCH again. And, and, and………..

Sincerely and with deep appreciation,

Andrew

I found you in October through Dean and Kate and have been following your emails since. I started this journey in August and I have to say that going at it alone has been somewhat of a success but with a fair amount of struggle. Even that said, my relationship with my wife has never been better.

I wanted to tell you that in the few short days I have been using your program that I have found it extremely helpful and powerful. So far the most powerful and helpful example is that I need to slow down and not push to fix this RIGHT NOW DAM IT!

My solution to not getting sex and or not getting good sex has been to have more sex. And not the ways you suggest, but rather the begging and pleading and demanding etc. I have a bit of a slow burner to work with as you put it.

Somehow with the use of your program I have been able to step back a bit and slow the pace. I am at peace with the way things are and the progress we are making. I needed someone to tell me to slow down….even though deep down I knew that is what I had to do. I also recognize that in order for me to do this MY HOUSE MUST BE IN ORDER. I am grateful that I am in a place today that I can work on this with your help.

In addition, I truly am appreciative and thankful of the professional and healthy nature of your program and I like the line in the fast path guide that states if she finds out about what you are doing there is nothing in the content that can’t be shared with her.

For me, your product is a safe way to repair our relationship. The most ironic thing for me is that a large amount of the discussion centers around improving the relationship. The consequences for improving the relationship then become an additional connection through sex which is pleasurable. As we continue on the path the cycle just keeps improving. This is a fantastic and awesome opportunity. I have spent a good portion of my life stuck in destructive cycles where my actions produced negative consequences and then I took more negative actions that produced more negative consequences. What a way to live!

So thanks and I am looking forward to sharing my progress with you.

Thanks,

Phil

Just wanted to be sure I am still on your email lists as I want to check out any new content as soon as possible.

Also, I’m sure I will be first in line for any new programs you create as these have been invaluable to me so far.

I will also be sure to recommend your programs to anyone who asks my advise (or complains) about their marriage. — Tom E.

I really wanted to have my subject heading titled HOLY SHIT! I about fell over last night. I have Revive Her Drive for 3 days and BAM! Sex like we have not had in 2 years.

I told you I had been going at it alone doing some of the suggested exercises that I could discern from your emails I have been following since October, as well as some things from other resources.

Apparently the difference of owning Revive Her Drive is the difference!

Last night my wife got home from a late meeting and I ‘ran a menu’ which included 4 items; I make her tea, watch TV together, Give her a back rub or me going to sleep so she could have some alone time. There was zero expectations for sex. The scenario just had ‘she is tired’ written all over it. I had also used 2 erotic communication words. I used the words ‘admired’ and ‘delicious.’ She fired back with her own menu that we could take a shower together and then watch TV together with our arms wrapped around each other. I was taken back. I was about to be in bed sleeping! Had I not ran that menu I would have been sleeping for sure. Anyway, before we made it into the shower she was up on the vanity and it was like years ago.

I admit to being a bit nervous sharing all this with you because I am not sure my wife would appreciate me sharing details of our sex life however I am excited about my/our success as a couple and feel like a 16 year old – like now what? The sex was great and I just enjoyed it instead of trying to over pleasure her and put pressure on her to perform.

My problem now is the ejaculation control. That is a tough one on the ego to talk about… I plan on getting into the audio on that [Orgasmic Mastery Module] to be able to start working on it… After sex last night I “rewarded” her for her good behavior, but I wanted to talk to her about better sex… and my lack of control and her having orgasms but I have learned that sometimes keeping your mouth shut is better and it felt like a good time to use that tool. None the less I am bothered I did not talk to her about it and to be honest I have fear now that because I know through our discussions that she is not sexually satisfied that the results for her last night provide a negative re-enforcement that says see – he is just in it for himself…

I have not used the forum yet — but I wanted to share my experience with you and get some feed back. For me, I have to tell you that deep down I knew from the moment I saw Revive Her Drive that it would work. Yet I am still some how amazed. The set of circumstances that are in my marriage and relationship of 16 years with my wife cause me to believe that what I am experiencing now and the hope that I have for the future is nothing short of a miracle. — Name Withheld

I think the best advise I took from this discussion was to slow down and “Remember the steps and the order of those steps. First romance her heart and mind. Then add in the senses and sensual romance strategies which bring sensual pleasure into both your lives every single day. Then and only then, when you are getting responses from romance and sensual pleasure, add in seduction.” I think too often as men we just want to fix things and then be done but this is a process that will take time (the rest of our lives) to fully develop. Especially if we “have many years of habit to unwind…” We need to remember to “Take a deep breath and delight in baby steps of progress. And remember too, that this is a process in which you will take steps backward as well as forward, but ultimately you are moving forward.” I KNOW this can be frustrating (believe me I do) but I think by encouraging each other in the process, it helps to dissipate some of the anger and frustration that we so!

Thank you Susan for creating the environment for us to do so! I especially appreciated when you said, “If you romance her to warm her heart, if you bring her sensual pleasure… that is not coercion, darling. That is your divine masculine energy, your vision, leadership, love, respect for the goddess, joy, delight, human connection. Bring it to her. Open your little flower with the warmth of your love and your lust for her.”

Also being married for over 20 years, I now recognize the classic “nice guy” trap of not wanting to manipulate your partner. I understand now it is NOT manipulation to have a vision for where you want your relationship to go, they are still free to not follow your vision if they choose, but it is certainly better than no vision at all which just leads to frustration because they don’t know what you want. Thanks again for the great discussion (and the audio interviews!) You certainly go above and beyond!

Did I happen to say Thank You!?! — “Steamy”